You can inspect what gets stored in debconf using debconf-get-selections. This is useful if you have actually done the installation already.
Alternately, these settings are used in the package maintainer scripts. With the dpkg-deb command you have run, these are in the DEBIAN subdirectory of EXTRACTDIR.
As an example, from lightdm:
$ grep db_ lightdm/DEBIAN -R
lightdm/DEBIAN/postrm: db_purge
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_unregister shared/default-x-display-manager
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: if db_get shared/default-x-display-manager; then
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_metaget shared/default-x-display-manager owners
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_subst shared/default-x-display-manager choices "$RET"
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_get shared/default-x-display-manager
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: if db_get "$RET"/daemon_name; then
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_fset shared/default-x-display-manager seen false
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_input critical shared/default-x-display-manager || true
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_go
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_get shared/default-x-display-manager
lightdm/DEBIAN/prerm: db_get "$RET"/daemon_name
lightdm/DEBIAN/postinst: if db_get shared/default-x-display-manager; then
lightdm/DEBIAN/postinst: if db_get "$DEFAULT_DISPLAY_MANAGER"/daemon_name; then
lightdm/DEBIAN/postinst:db_stop
lightdm/DEBIAN/config:if db_metaget shared/default-x-display-manager owners; then
lightdm/DEBIAN/config:if db_metaget shared/default-x-display-manager choices; then
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: db_subst shared/default-x-display-manager choices "$OWNERS" || :
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: db_fset shared/default-x-display-manager seen false || :
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: db_set shared/default-x-display-manager "$CURRENT_DEFAULT"
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: if db_get shared/default-x-display-manager; then
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: db_set shared/default-x-display-manager lightdm
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: db_fset shared/default-x-display-manager seen true
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: db_input high shared/default-x-display-manager || :
lightdm/DEBIAN/config: db_go || :
lightdm/DEBIAN/config:if db_get shared/default-x-display-manager; then
The various db_* functions are helper functions for handling debconf, obtained from /usr/share/debconf/confmodule.
So, in the case of lightdm, shared/default-x-display-manager is an important debconf key.